What a long 3 weeks it has been for me. Elisa, thanks for dropping the comment. I didn't think anyone dropped by my blog anymore. After all, I haven't been diligent in updating it.
Anyway, I've had to think deep and hard and go through so many different emotions this past month. Things I've learned is that everyone has a different way of viewing an issue. And it's up to me to decide which is the best for myself. Coz only hubby and me really understand and know what we've been through and what our threshold for arguments are.
Things that make me wonder though are of the differing opinion one person compared to another.
Quotes I still remember and had swimming around my head were:
Online chatting really isn't cheating. He just wants to know if he still 'has it'. (try and guess if this person is a guy or girl!).
Knowing that he needs more than what you can give, you have to decide if you want to give the extra bit to him and lose a little bit more of yourself.
You have to remember that syurga di bawah tapak kaki ibu and suami. To be the best person you can be, your number 1 priority is your husband.
The best and most comforting words came from hubby himself.
You have a right to be angry and no, you're not making a big issue out of this. I'm sorry. I have a problem and I want to fix it.
So taking in all that I've heard, I do believe that there are more good qualities in our marriage than the bad. But I can't help thinking, is it really true that men can't be without their women. So is life really all about making sure that he's happy coz if he's not, he will find it elsewhere - be it through friends, through strangers or other weird hobbies.
Is this another lesson in life?
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5 comments:
I am so glad to read that you and hubby have ironed things out.
Biasalah, all relationships (matrimonial or not) ada bumps nya and if both parties are willing to work on it, insya-Allah, Tuhan akan beri ruang for it to grow.
I hope that your relationship will be stronger because of this.
*hugs*
Thanks Elisa for the moral support. I just wonder what's the line between a normal and acceptable matrimonial disagreement and and unacceptable one. Sometimes I wish I didn't live such a naive and sheltered life coz when things like this happen to me, I freak and turn into a cynic. But all is good now and I do know I have a really good guy.
hi! chance upon your blog. I am glad you have resolved the issue. I was faced with the same issue same time back. Just like you I was heartbroken.Its really about gender interpretation of the same topic. We have resolved the issue since. I realised its just a'weak link' to an otherwise good, harmonious marriage. And the man is for keeps. SInce then,he does not have cyberpals. What is reassuring during those trying times is that he did not meet any of them though some of them suggested esp when they know that he is an expat... hmmm
well, bumps yang kecik, boleh dibesar-besarkan, likewise, bumps yang besar boleh dikecik-kecik kan.
It all depends on how you handle it lah kan?
tutulily - Thanks for dropping by! So comforting to know that other people go through similar things. The hardest thing for me is to know when it has crossed the line. I hate to say that I've become a cynic and have doubted my perception of life and its surroundings. But I try to be positive when I can.
Elisa - You are definitely right. And I'm glad to know that not everybody reacts the same way and that there is no one correct way to handle things. It's all about compromise and communication.
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